Musings in my Garden

A praying mantis inches it’s way up
my pink stucco wall
It seeks no destination
For only we seek happiness
When happiness is in the journey itself.

Sitting in front of the fire pit
I dug for us to kindle our new friendship
Today I dig it deeper still
to rekindle memories of happy times
instead of all the sorrow.

Deanna Joy 8-27-16

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My GOD Box

I have a beautiful little box, a recent birthday gift from a loving friend, which I call my GOD box. I keep it in a special place and when I have something or someone to which or to whom I am unwilling to surrender my will, I write it on a little piece of paper and put it in the box, thus surrendering it over to GOD’s will to be done. From then on, I never take it out!

Deanna Joy

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Transgender girl helps to create center for trans people near Westboro Baptist Church | Daily Mail Online:

I got this via Moore’s Closet. Thanks Kira for sharing it.Trans house in  Westboro 

Transgender girl helps to create center for trans people near Westboro Baptist Church    | Daily Mail Online:

Deanna Joy

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I’m Trans, I’m Proud, Get Over It

Here I am in the 2016 Santa Fe Pride Parade!

2016 Santa Fe Pride

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Men are funny about things like that

Having once lived in the enemy camp, as it were, one of the many things I now enjoy in being the woman I have always believed I was meant to be is that I can usually find ways to make the best use of my time, such as standing in a long line to use a public women’s restroom. I always use the wait as an opportunity to meet my neighbors in the line.  On rare occasions while living in the enemy camp, I have observed some men doing that, but most of the time they seemed to be far more focused on doing their business as quickly as possible, simply because THEY CAN!

Another thing I have observed in many men is that men can sometimes be impatient when they have to wait to use a gender-neutral one seater and a woman is taking more time than men think she should.   Sometime last fall I was at my gym and witnessed a man say out loud in the presence of myself and another woman “Women don’t seem to know how to hurry up.”  I held my tongue but wanted to say to him “If you had blood coming out of your ass or some other downstairs orifice on a monthly cycle or had to wrangle in and out of your clothes just to pee as we sometimes must do, or even bothered to wash your hands and check your makeup and such every time you used a toilet, you wouldn’t be so quick to judge.” The other woman seemed puzzled probably because she doesn’t have the inside dope on men like I do. She remarked “What’s his problem!”  I turned face to her and she to mine and we both burst out laughing. I don’t know about her, but it made my day!

On the subject of toilet seats, one of the first things I immediately noticed at the beginning of my transition when I only would pee sitting down brought a new understanding about why woman insist that men put the toilet seat down after peeing, especially in the woman’s own home where she can reasonably expect it to be down. It made total sense why men often seem oblivious, even to the point of making a snide sexist remark about why we insist upon it.  If men had to always turn hind side when approaching a toilet, especially at night, they might understand. Or would they?

Men really are funny about things like that. Still, ya gotta love em!

Deanna Joy






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Today is a Good Day To Die

Originally posted July 1, 2014 with a small revision

I am a soldier to no cause or belief. I am a warrior. I choose my battles very carefully and most of those are within myself. I strive never to live a moment of my life with any regrets, or tasks left undone. If my life in this vehicle of my soul were to be terminated today, tomorrow, or whenever, I want to be able to say “Hoka hé, Today is a good day to die.”** -Deanna Joy

** Battle cry attributed to Oglala Lakota Warrior His-Horse-is-Crazy

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Still Think Trans Women Have Male Privilege? These 7 Points Prove They Don’t

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This article reads like the nightmare I lived in since I was around age five.

Reblogged from everyday feminism

Deanna Joy Hallmark

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To This Day Fourteen Years Ago I Pray

Author’s note: This prayer was attributed once to Saint Francis of Assisi and is now known simply as The Peace Prayer

The Peace Prayer

Lord, make me an instrument of Thy peace;
Where there is hatred, let me sow love;
Where there is injury, pardon;
Where there is error, the truth;
Where there is doubt, the faith;
Where there is despair, hope;
Where there is darkness, light;
And where there is sadness, joy.

O Divine Master,
Grant that I may not so much seek
To be consoled, as to console;
To be understood, as to understand;
To be loved as to love.

For it is in giving that we receive;
It is in pardoning that we are pardoned;
And it is in dying that we are born to eternal life. Amen.

Deanna Joy Hallmark

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2015 Santa Fe Pride

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10 Things Trans Activists and Allies Need to Remember That Have Nothing to Do With Caitlyn Jenner – Everyday Feminism

10 Things Trans Activists and Allies Need to Remember That Have Nothing to Do With Caitlyn Jenner – Everyday Feminism

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